Erecting a monument is a tribute to the deceased and expresses the hope that their memory will live on. The tradition goes back thousands of years to the time when the patriarch Jacob set up a monument in honor of his wife Rachel. The custom of erecting a monument has great Kabbalistic significance as well.

When to erect a monument

There are many Jewish customs as to when to erect the monument. It ranges from immediately after the Shiva until the first Yahrtzeit or later. Ask your Rabbi about your particular custom.

The unveiling service

The unveiling service takes place at the grave in honour of the deceased. It is attended by family and close friends.

The service includes:

• *Removing the veil
• Reciting the selected Psalms
• Speaking about the deceased
• The El Maleh Rachamim prayer
• Mourners Kaddish.

*Please note that the veil is not a traditionally Jewish custom but rather a North American custom.

Officiating the unveiling

The unveiling service is usually led by a Rabbi or someone who is versed in Jewish customs and traditions.