Unveiling

Erecting a monument for the deceased has a history in Jewish law and custom.

The tradition goes back thousands of years to the time when the patriarch Jacob set up a monument in honor of his wife Rachel.

The custom of erecting a monument has great Kabbalistic significance as well.

Erecting a monument is a tribute to the deceased and expresses the hope that their memory will live on.

When to erect a monument.

There are many Jewish customs as to when to erect the monument, ranging from immediately after the Shiva until sometime before the first yahrtzeit (anniversary of the death).

Ask your Rabbi about your particular custom. 

The unveiling service

The unveiling service takes place at the grave in honor of the deceased. It is attended by family and close friends.

The service consists of removing the veil*, reciting several Psalms, speaking  about the deceased, reciting the El Maleh Rachamim prayer and followed by the Mourner’s Kaddish.

*Please note that the veil is not a traditionally Jewish custom but rather is a North American custom.

Officiating at the unveiling

The unveiling service is usually led by a Rabbi who is versed in Jewish customs and traditions.